The dating theory of a woman has divided social media, with an expert weighing in on the hot topic.
Chelsea Berman shared her “theory” that if someone was excessively on social media with “paragraphs” that their partner was their soul mate – it was a sign that the relationship was in trouble.
“You’re actually miserable in that relationship,” the singer said.
“Several reasons – one, because I’ve been there. Two, who are you trying to prove to? You can just tell them that.”
She said there was no problem with your partner posting on social media. Her point was people who over-post about their partners.
People obviously had mixed opinions about this.
“A private life is a happy life,” commented one social media user.
Another said: “I follow my partner all the time because for the first time in my life I feel valued and happy in a relationship. So NO that’s not true.”
“I think the most miserable people are actually the ones who judge others for what they choose to post. Live your life,” said one.
Another commented: “Over-posting and not posting at all are the same thing.”
“100 percent. I’ve been with my partner for seven years and barely have anything to prove to anyone. It’s always the toxic ones that do the most,” added another.
One added: “This is fake I post my man everyday because I’m obsessed LOL not because I’m miserable.”
The research is divided into topics. Bumble’s 2023 Love Unfiltered report found that 27 percent of people want their partner to post about them on social media.
Meanwhile, a survey of 2,000 people found that 26 percent of people who texted their partner three times a week were unhappy. In addition, 42 percent were very dissatisfied. Meanwhile, 46 percent of people who never shared some content were very happy.
Samantha Jayne, a relationship expert, told news.com.au the overpost was not only “worry-worthy” but was a “trouble sign”.
“Overlapping screams insecurity in the relationship, where you’re trying to prove to people how happy you are and how strong you’re going, by embellishing positive experiences,” she said.
“Excessive posting of loving photos and captions can be a sign that a couple is dealing with issues such as a lack of trust or communication. Sometimes, constantly posting about your relationship, or always wanting to be posted, becomes a smokescreen that masks the real struggles within the relationship.
“Sometimes it’s a front, sometimes it’s also a sign that there’s control in a relationship. When you’re with a controlling partner, declaring your love for them can ease their anger. Over-posting can also be a weapon against an ex who just won’t let go, rubbing your relationship in their face.”
But the expert said the under-posting was also not a big sign. She said if you’re in a happy relationship and if you post friends and family, you should post your partner too.
“Posting your link is a sign of commitment; it’s like a digital wedding ring that shows you’re investing in the relationship,” she said.
“The next time you want to broadcast your link ask yourself if I’m doing it because I really want to celebrate something real or if I’m trying to cover a real issue.”
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